Grief and loss is complicated and messy.
There's no simple way of putting it. That's how it is.
In therapy and counselling, I often hear clients say that family and friends keep telling them that ' you should be over this by now'; 'how can you still feel sad about X' or even 'pull your socks up and get over it' (I have to admit, I shriek inside when I hear that, arghhh!).
The thing is, hearing these things 1) isn't helpful or validating; and 2) misses the point when it comes to grief, loss and bereavement.
There's no simple way of putting it. That's how it is.
In therapy and counselling, I often hear clients say that family and friends keep telling them that ' you should be over this by now'; 'how can you still feel sad about X' or even 'pull your socks up and get over it' (I have to admit, I shriek inside when I hear that, arghhh!).
The thing is, hearing these things 1) isn't helpful or validating; and 2) misses the point when it comes to grief, loss and bereavement.
We can also experience grief, loss and bereavement for lots of
different things: it's not just in response to the loss of a loved on.
We can experience this in relation to the loss of a beloved pet (I lost a beloved pet in March this year and I'm still grieving - it's a terrible experience as I'm sure some of you will know). We can experience it in relation to loss of health, a job, moving house/location, loss of elements of our identity, a interest/hobby, an object that had meaning for us, something in our environment and even a value/attitude/viewpoint.
Neither is grief, loss and bereavement 'a straight line'. It goes more like the diagram below.
Recognise this in yourself? Maybe you are experiencing this now. If you are looking for some support with grief, loss and/or bereavement, get in touch to find out how we can support you.
One of our therapists/counsellors, Andreia, has particular experience and interest in this area. She has appointments available on Monday mornings. We have other therapists/counsellors too.
Please feel free to get in touch for more information or to book an appointment.
Best wishes,
Alexandra
www.citizen17therapy.co.uk
support@citizen17therapy.co.uk
We can experience this in relation to the loss of a beloved pet (I lost a beloved pet in March this year and I'm still grieving - it's a terrible experience as I'm sure some of you will know). We can experience it in relation to loss of health, a job, moving house/location, loss of elements of our identity, a interest/hobby, an object that had meaning for us, something in our environment and even a value/attitude/viewpoint.
Neither is grief, loss and bereavement 'a straight line'. It goes more like the diagram below.
Recognise this in yourself? Maybe you are experiencing this now. If you are looking for some support with grief, loss and/or bereavement, get in touch to find out how we can support you.
One of our therapists/counsellors, Andreia, has particular experience and interest in this area. She has appointments available on Monday mornings. We have other therapists/counsellors too.
Please feel free to get in touch for more information or to book an appointment.
Best wishes,
Alexandra
www.citizen17therapy.co.uk
support@citizen17therapy.co.uk
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